SOME ADVICE TO OTHERS

I KNOW THAT IT IS EASY TO LOSE YOUR MIND QUICKLY DAKOTAS WHEN HE WAS BARELY ABLE TO SEE OVER THE KITCHEN SINK HAD AN OBESSESSION WITH THE DISHCLOTH BEING HUNG OVER THE FAUCET AND I WOULD FORGET CONSTANTLY WHEN I WOULD LEAVE THE KITCHEN AREA HE WOULD START IN SCREAMING AND YELLING AND TANTRUMING IT DROVE ME NUTS-- I REALIZED THAT HE WAS TRAINING ME MORE THAN I WAS TRAINING HIM  BUT EVENTUALLY I ALSO NOTICED THAT THE WINDOW WHICH FACES EAST LET A BRIGHT LIGHT IN ON THE CHROME AND IT WAS THE SUNLIGHT REFLECTING OFF THE SPIGOT THAT IRRITATED HIM SO FROM THEN ON I KEPT THE SHADE DOWN IN THE MORNING     YOU WILL ALSO REALIZE THAT ONE BEHAVIOR WILL REPLACE ANOTHER SO WHEN YOU SOLVE OR STOP HIM FROM SOMETHING DRIVING YOU NUTS HE WILL SUBSTITUTE WITH ANOTHER-- AS HE GETS OLDER IT WILL BE FINDING APPROPRIATE BEHAVIORS THAT HE CAN GET SOME SATUISFACTION THAT DOESNT SEEM OUT OF PLACE OR AGE APPROPRIATE. LIKE WHEN DAK WAS SMALL WE GAVE HIM DOG TOYS TO USE FOR SENSORY STIMULATION --BRIGHT COLORS AND GREAT TEXTURES SUGGESTED BY THE OT AT KAISER SO WHEN HE GOT OLDER WE HAD TO FIND THINGS HE COULD USE THAT WERE BABY-ISH SO WENT GRADUATED TO A LEATHER  STRAP ON HIS WRIST I GUESS YOU GET THE IDEA ' THE MOST IMPORTANT THING I CAN TELL YOU OFF THE START IS BREATHE AND TAKE TIME TO OBSERVE HIM WHEN HES CALM  WHEN HES AT HIS BEST AND CAPITALIZE ON THAT   FOR LANGUAGE  I HUGHLY RECOMMMEND SIGN--- JUST USING A FEW SIGNS CAN MAKE A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE IN COMMUNICATION-- SOME THINK IT HINDERS LANGUAGE BUT I DISAGREE A LARGE PART OF  OUR CHILDRENS FRUSTRATION IS FROM INABILITY TO TALK   SIGN ALLOWS THEM A SAFE HAVEN TO COMMUNICATE AND KEEP TALKING TO HIM  HE GETS IT WHETHER HE CAN ACKNOWLEDGE IT OR NOT-- KEEP TALKING BELIEVE ME EVEN WHEN YOU THINK HES NOT PAYING ATTENTION --HE IS!!!!!!!