Something besides Nagging!!!

One of the highlights in Dakotas life right now are the hours he gets to spend at the Anthesis Program.It is a very new program specifically for individuals transitioning from school to "the rest of their life".

It has only been up and running for a little over a year and its main purpose is to design and execute services to help our kids become one with their community--the neighborhood where they live. It is an extremely unique program that is desperately needed throughout

the Autism community.

This is one of their first fundraisers for the kids to get involved,to invite the general public to get to know our kids and to further promote its exsistance.The basic idea is that our kids are not the ones who "naturally" participate in sporting activities so we will bring the sporting activities and atheletes to them!

Please feel free to come down and participate.

Just Cannot Figure it out.

It should be "Happy Easter"
For the most part every day; whether it is a holdiay or not, You have to find the happiness in the few minutes or hours that present themselves and FORGET  the stress or behavior that will come and go. One thing I have noticed is that our kids seem to be impervious their behavior and how it affects those around them.Another thing is that they are also unbelievablely resilient to behavior--At least that seems to be the case with Dakota.

As I have said before that it seems as if the recent behavior patterns are almost siezure like. They come and go in short spans of time and it seems as if Dakota almost has an "out of Body" experience. Also, it is very apparent that the less confrontation the quicker the situation seems to "blow over". Moreover the most amazing thing is this resilience I have witnessed with Dakota---After a very short period of time, it is as if the behavior never happened. He is smiling and sometimes laughing and literally untouched by this episode that was so intense its enough to make my head explode. That makes me happy he can go through that and come back to a calm peaceful place. What I take issue with is there no learning place in all of that. Hence the nature of the beast! How can one learn if it becomes a "non issue"?

Yesterday was one of those days!
Went were motoring through the regular event of the day when while we were out in the car he flipped out----Screaming and yelling and grabbing my arm calling me names as we rounded the corner heading for home he clicked off his seatbelt and opened the door while the car was in motion-- LUckily I was about 30 to 40 feet from a clear driveway so I swung into the first parking spot as he piled out of the car yelling at the top of his lungs F---this   F---that-- he walked down to the sidewalk and told me he wasnt getting back into the car--- I knew I could not "make" him get back in so I had to let it play out---Once he got down to the sidewalk I think he realized that he didnt know which way to go so after 2 or 3 minutes he finally relented and got back in the car -- I told him if he wants to blow up do it at home.
WE made a quick trip to the house and he retreated to the nedroom and finished out his fit. I have found that if I leave him alone, it will fizzle out faster. I went about my business in the kitchen and eventually he came around----

To the minute of writing this I still DO NOT know what caused this behavior and that is the most frustrating--- If I could see the antecedant perhaps I could avoid these incidents but right now 
I Just Cannot Figure It Out;