I must admit my so. Is pretty ingrained to a specific routine and / or schedule ,to get him to try something new maybe almost problematic..because it will irritate him and cause more behavior rather than helping him get rid or behavior....
HOWEVER....almost everyday I see little glimmers of progress that indicate that his brain is still fighting to get out, To show the world that he's "in there"and crying to get out..
Then I become perplexed now to help him and how to convince others that he still has potential and to not give up on him....
By the time you have arrived at 28 years there have been so many "irons in the fire"..there is a sense of "weariness". You always out get it the point where you start to believe the doctors and professionals and you are ready to cave and just go with the flo...then something happens and you KNOW...you're not crazy and you kid is doing things he never did befor ..you get a second wind and start the embers to light the fire AGAIN!
Something like this: over the weekend we went to Anaheim to meet up with a long time friend and I suggested Rubys..cuz it was familiar for Dak and I knew he would go in and sit down so we could have a successful visit ....we actually lasted 2 hours and then it was time to go....
So the next night I actually decided to make bacon and Eggs with homemade hash browns and raisin toast..for dinner...about half way thru eating ...Dakota looked up ..straight in the eyes and said this is better dinner than Rubys was!!!!!Oh My God I almost fell off the chair..I have never heard him comment on dinner or make a comparison every befor in 28 years...
It may seem insignificant to others but again what it tells me is that he is still growing, and learning and his brain has not given up...so I will not give up!!!
