HARD DAYS NIGHT

GOSH ANOTHER WEEK HAS GONE BY AND TONIGHT WAS PARTICULARLY HARD.DAKOTA RETURNED FROM BEING WITH HIS FATHER WHICH IS ALWAYS A LITTLE TOUCHY JUST BECUASE ITS TRANSITION .CHANGE. BUT TONIGHT WE HAD ANOTHER GO AROUND WITH THE 10 OCLOCK BEDTIME ISSUE. I HAVE ACCEPTED IT FOR THE TIME BEING AND HAVE DECIDED THAT IT IS NOT A BATTLE I WISH TO UNDERTAKE FOR NOW.I HAVE BEEN ABLE TO CONVINCE HIM THT THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS TO THE RULE. AND WE ARE DEVELOPING DIALOG ABOUT THOSE TIMES THAT GOING TO BED AT TEN ON THE DOT JUST IS NOT POSSIBLE.  BUT TONIGHT WAS DIFFERENT. 15 TO 20 MINUTES BEFORE TEN OCLOCK HE STARTED  GETTING ESCALATED IN BEHAVIOR FRETTING  POUTNG  REPETITIOUS PHRASES  THEN YELLING  AND SOON AFTER THAT HE WENT TO THE CLOSET AND GOT THE BROOM AND WANTED TO SWAT ME WITH IT --HE STARTED TO SWING ITAROUND  AND I GRABBED IT. INTIALLY I WAS DOING MY BEST TO IGNORE HIS RANTING BECAUSE ATTENTION SEEKING BEHAVIOR GETS WORSE IF YOU ACKNOWLEDGE IT  I WAS WATCHING A TELEVISED ROD STEWART CONCERT AND HE WAS NOT HAPPY THAT I WAS NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO HIM ISTEAD OF THE MUSIC ON THE TV.WHEN HE DECIDED THAT HE COULDNT GET ME AWAY FROM THE SHOW THATS WHEN THIS BEHAVIOR STARTED. IN HIS DEFENSE HE WAS ALSO UPSET THAT I HAD THE VOLUME TURNED UP A LITTLE MORE THAN NORMAL TO ENJOY THE MUSIC AND ACTUALLY I WAS TRYING TO GET HIM INTERESTD IN THE MUSIC ALSO. THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT THE THE VOLUME COULD HAVE BEEN THE PRE-CURSOR FOR THE BEHAVIOR BUT I REALLY BELIEVE IT WAS AN ANXIETY ATTACK THAT HE DIDNT HAVE MUCH CONTROL OVER---HE STARTED RANTING ABOUT BEING IN BED AT TEN AND THAT IT WAS PASSED TEN WHEN  IT WAS 945. ALTHOUGH I TRIED REPEATEDLY TO POINT OUT TO HIM THAT WE HAD A FEW MINUTES AND IT WAS OK HE CONINUED TO ESCALATE. WHEN HE CAME SWINGING WITH THE BROOM THAT IS WHEN I FINALLY HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO ACKNOWLEDGE HIM.I COMMENDEERED THE BROOM FROM HIM AND POINTED OUT NUMEROUS TIMES THAT IT WASNT 10 YET AND TO CALM DOWN BY THAT TIME I LOST IT IN ALL HONESTY IT WAS AN INTENSE  OCCURANCE BUT IT WAS REALLY RATHER BRIEF WITHIN 15 MINUTES OR WHEN IT WAS 10 OCLOCK AND HE SAW THAT WE WERE GONG TO BE IN BED HE STARTED TO SETTLE IN AND ACTUALLY SAID HE WAS SORRY ONCE  HE WAS SECURE IN HE FACT THAT  HE WOULD BE IN BED BY TEN 

SO A HARD DAYS NIGHT    I SURE THERE ARE MORE TO COME AND YOUJUST HAVE TO TAKE THEM ONE AT A TIME .KEEP ON YUR TOES AND KEEP THINKING OF WAYS TO DIVERT OR REDIRECT THE BEHAVIOR.