Its a Matter of Perspective!

Last week I was speaking with a friend who has a {typical}son about the same age as Dakota. He is a very good kid who has not given her any real trouble -- which is amazing in these times we live in. He is a quiet unassuming kid who graduated high school and took some college and is now working in a decent job. She and her husband are stellar parents. They have set a great example for him and given him all the love and support he could ever need or want---Well last week it comes out that their son has a child on the way --- OK its not the end of the world BUT mom is deastated cuz she felt that some how she failed her son ---that he did not use the knowledge he was given and now has a baby to support that he is not ready for-- For Mom she feels like she is being robbed of  some memories that are suppose to come BEFORE A BABY.-- OK OK again in these times it is even RARE that a wedding  shower comes before a baby shower  but that is the way it supposed to be---and of course Mom is sad cuz she cannot sheild her son from some of the harsh realities of this world-- Need;ess to say this is where my rather out there philoisphy comes about OUR KIDS AND AUTISM...\
Typical parents with typical kids go through so much {just like we do --BUT diffewrent} boyfriends and girlfriends and bad realtionships and break up -- getting in trouble with the law -- drugs-- car accidents --rotten grades,etc. Many would say all things that some have to deal with BUT I think there is always something that happens and very rarely is there even a typical family that doesnt have "some warts or faux pas" to deal with. AND many would say "thats just Life" -- They are right! We never know what is going to be thrown at us; we just need to be resilent and relentless.    

Where my "perspective" comes in is here--- Every waking moment, those of us who have kids with Autism, wonder when its going to stop or at least slow down-- we hurt and ache for our kids to just be typical or to have a typical moment. We muddle through all the differences and always want to change or sheild our kids from being anything but 'NORMAL" Then I hear something like the story above and and I think  WELL I have a kid who is a young adult and he still loves his Mom and wants to be around her; He hasnt gone out and gotten drunk and ended up in Jail; he hasnt wrecked a car or broke  curfew: he hasnt stolen money from my purse; he doesnt walk around with his pants around his knees AND he hasnt brought a girl home pregnant!  
SO JUST HOW DAMN BAD IS AUTISM?

Please dont mis understand every day is a challenge but the bigger message is we have to find the silver lining ; we have to make the best they we can for our kids we have to keep positive in the equasion. We have to realize that these kids know what we teach them  and the dont need any more negatives in their lives.
The old saying when God gives you lemons you can make leonmade-- Its up to us to add the sugar!