STONEWALLING

RIGHT NOW THERE SEEMS TO BE OCCURANCES SEVERAL TIMES A DAY WITH BEHAVIOR ,O.C.D.[OBESSESIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER] AND STONEWALLING. I CAN HONESTLY SAY THAT THIS IS VERY SIMILAR TO EARTHQUAKES WHERE THERE IS A "SWARMING" EFFECT.YOU CAN HAVE DAYS WHEN YOU CANT RECALL HAVING FRUSTRATION OR DEALING WITH "A BEHAVIOR" THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN IT SEEMS FOR DAYS ON END OR WEEKS AT A TIME IT JUST DOESNT LET UP. NO MATTER HOW CLEVER YOU THINK YOU ARE OR HOW MANY STRATEGIES YOU HAVE IN YOUR BACK POCKET EVERY THING BACKFIRES AND YOU ARE AT SQUARE ONE AGAIN SCRATCHING YOUR HEAD AND WONDERING WHAT WENT WRONG OR WHAT YOU CAN DO TO INTERVIENE.

TODAY  DAKOTA WOKE UP WITH THE TV SCHEDULE ON HIS BRAIN.THE FIRST WORDS OUT OF HIS MOUTH WAS THAT THE APPRENTICE STARTS NEXT THURSDAY AND HE QUESTIONED ME ABOUT WATCHING THE AMAZING RACE LAST NIGHT. I REQUESTED THAT HE USE THE BATHROOM - -  HE REFUSED  I ASKED HIM WHAT HE WANTED FOR BREAKFAST HE TOLD ME --I FIXED IT - - THEN HE REFUSED TO EAT IT BECAUSE YOU SEE TODAY IS PIZZA AND SALAD DAY SO HIS TRAIN OF THOUGHT IS THAT IF HE DOESNT EAT BREAKFAST I WILL HAVE TO GET IT FOR HIM????LIKE I AM NOT GOING TO GIVE HIM HIS FOOD [ I AM NOT QUITE CLEAR HOW HE THINKS BUT I M TRYING TO FIGURE IT OUT ]FINALLY I SUCEED IN GETTING HIM TO URININATE. I THEN REQUESTED THAT HE PUT ON HIS PANTS SO WE COULD GO GET HIS FOOD AND ONCE AGAIN WE ARE AT A STANDOFF. AT THIS VERY MOMENT I HAVE DECIDED TO JOURNAL THIS EVENT BECAUSE I AM NOT INTERACTING WITH DAKOTA UNTIL HE DECIDES TO MAKE A GOOD CHOICE AND PUT HIS PANTS ON.

IN RETROSPECT I PROBABLY SHOULD HAVE JUST LET HIM REFUSE TO DRESS AND LEFT HIM HERE WHILE I WENT AND GOT THE FOOD,BUT YOU KNOW WHAT THEY SAY--JUST A MINUTE  AT THIS VERY MOMENT DAKOTA IS CONCEDING TO ME AND HAS ASKED FOR HELP TO DRESS---HURRAH  AS THE SAYING GOES HIND-SIGHT IS 20/20 WELL AS IT TURNED OUT MY STRATEGY WORKED BUT IT TOOK ALMOST 2 HOURS TO SUCCEED AND ALOT OF TOLERANCE AND THE ABILITY TO GIVE MYSELF TIMEOUT JUST TOLET THINGS PLAY OUT!

WELL MISSION ACCOMPLISHED WE ARE OFF TO RUN ERRANDS ,GRANDMA TO THE DOCTOR AND OH YES   THE PIZZA  CANT FORGET THE "CARRORT "