ANOTHER EXERPT

I RECENTLY  RESPONDED TO A MOM THAT WAS DEALING WITH THE FRUSTRATION FOR NOT BEING ABLE TO CONVEY TO HER SON  THE IMPORTANCE OF  DOING  A SPECIFIC TASK AND SHE  RELUCTANTLY SAID THAT SHE WAS TRYING SOMETIMES  TO FIT HER CHILD INTO A MOLD  LIKE EVERYONE ELSE IS TRYING TO DO -- AND  WITH THAT THIS IS  PART OF MY RESPONSE: 

THE ONE STATEMENT THAT STICKS OUT IN MY HEAD FROM YOU FIRST LETTER IS SOMETIMES YOU JUST WANT TO SMAK TODD ---I CANT TELL YOU HOW MANY TIMES I HAVE BEEN THERE AND ALTHOUGH LOVE EXUDES FROM MY BLOOD FOR DAKOTA  THE FRUSTRATION JUST TAKES OVER SOMETIME AND YOU JUST CANT CONVEY TO THEM HOW IMPORTANT SOMETHING IS OR HOW IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THEY UNDERSTAND HOW SOMETHING WORKS AND THE REAL SLAMMER IS THAT  MOST OF THE TIME ITS WAY MORE IMPORTANT TO ME IN MY "NORMAL " WAY OF LOOKING AT THINGS THAN  IT IS TO DAKOTA IN HIS WONDERFUL WORLD OF AUTISM ONCE THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT FADES OR YOU HAVE TIME TO STEP AWAY FROM THE SITUATION  I FIND THAT HALF THE TIME I WANT TO SMAK MYSELF INSTEAD FOR BEING SO STUPID TO EXPECT DAKOTA TO CHANGE SOMETHING THAT IS MY PROBLEM AND NOT HIS. I AM ALMOST CONVINCED THAT THEY ARE FORTUNATE TO HAVE THE ABILITY TO PLACE IMPORTANCE ON THE THINGS THAT MAKE THEM HAPPY AND BE DAMNED THE REST OF THE WORLD ; IF YOU DONT GET IT       CUZ ALL THEY CARE ABOUT IS WHAT MAKES THEM HAPPY AND COMFORTABLE--- I THINK A VALUABLE LESSON FOR MORE THAN JUST THOSE OF US WHO LIVE WITH AUTISM BUT FOR  ALL PEOPLE IN GENERAL-- ASIDE FROM BEING CONSIDERATE OF OTHERS FEELINGS AND RESPECTING PEOPLES PRIVACY AND PROPERTY  I THINK THAT THIS WORLD WOULD BE A WHOLE LOT BETTER OFF IF WE WERENT SO CAUGHT UP IN "KEEPING UP WITH THE JONES" AND "KEEPING UP APPERANCES"     AND OUR KIDS ARE STELLAR EXAMPLES OF TEACHING US THE ABILITY TO FOCUS ON WHAT MAKES  A PERSON HAPPY AND COMFORTABLE. WE JUST HAVE TO BE OPEN TO LEARN FROM THEM  INSTEAD OF TRY TO AS YOU SAID FIT THEM INTO A MOLD THAT SOCIETY PREDICTS!!!!