Water Under The Bridge

I have often wondered if having a Dakota a little later in life was a trigger or causation for Autism. I was healthy, active and emotionally ready and truthfully think that my age was an advantage.
I have actually written about the birth and delivery and feel that the extended labor and trauma was the starting piont for the diagnosis however who's to say that it didn't start at inception. No One will really know and for that matter until they find the cause no one really really ever know about their child and why autism came to "live" at their house in their child! So there comes a time when you just have to make peace with it; consider its a question that has no answer (at this time) and say "it's water under the bridge can't go back"

All of us at one time or another play the "what if....."scenario. Most the time we never arrive at a decisive answer. I have come to the 
opinion that it's a waste of time, it causes a lot of hurt and heartache  
and doesn't solve any problem. It's not just in the special needs community either .....I have seen many people ruin their lives over unresolved "what ifs". Somehow you gotta say there's no definitive answer or resolution AND move on . If you don't, the rest of your life will be stuck.

Its not easy to do and we all have moments of remorse,re-examination and doubt. We have to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps and get on with life! How will our lives or the lives of
others that connect with us benefit from the mire of doubt and 
regret.

The one thing about Autism is it never lets you "sleep" from the moment of the diagnosis you hit the road running. Perhaps because there is no "pat"answer or maybe just because it's what you need to do for your kid and family. You will always search, investigate or read to see if this particular "thing"might be the one "thing" that can make life better. Will this work on my kid? Did others benefit? 
Where can I get it? Is someone around here doing it AND having success?

I started this post with the intent to talk about age affecting autism but think I arrived at a different topic purely by accident. Guess my point is try not to beat yourself up on the "what ifs of life" because most of the time there is no answer or solution. Just try to embrace the situation, do the best your can,offer no apology for how you do things and most importantly TAKE NO PRISONERS...DO IT YOUR WAY!